#TeamJordyn & Why Women Blame Women

#TeamJordyn & Why Women Blame Women

The publicized pseudo-triangle between Jordyn, Tristan, and Khloe has me thinking about how peculiar it is that women attack other women in cases of infidelity. I’ve been guilty of it myself. Back in high school my best friend admitted that my friend with benefits kissed her but that nothing more happened after that. I cut her off and continued sleeping with him. I felt that as my BFF she owed it to me not to have put herself in a position for that person to kiss her. My FWB, on the other hand, got a pass because he was simply a horn dog who had no emotional investment in me. I expected nothing from him; I expected everything from my life-long friend. Twisted or no? Khloe Kardashian is treating Jordyn Woods the way I treated my best friend when we were 17.

To recap it all: News broke February 19th that Jordyn, Kylie Jenner’s best friend, may have slept with basketball player Tristan Thompson, whom we knew to still be in a relationship with Kylie’s sister Khloe at the time. In the following days trolls and fans watched for any clues confirming the scandal. There were comments on blogs by friends of the Kardashian family and even one from Khloe herself, but nothing from Jordyn or Tristan.

On Friday (March 1) Jordyn sat down with long-time family friend Jada Pinkett-Smith as a guest on her online talk show, Red Table Talk, to break her silence and address the week-long rumors that turned her life upside down (Jordyn was the punchline of memes and subjected to cyber bullying since the story came out). The internet tuned in for the highly anticipated conversation and afterward the narrative took a turn. After explaining her side of things, most people are now siding with Jordyn, including me.

According to Jordyn she drunkenly went to Tristan’s house with a group of people, draped her legs over his while sitting on a couch with others, and left in the morning after he kissed her out of the blue. Her story is much more tame than the rumored accounts of lap-dancing and ”getting cozy”. When Jada asked her flat-out if she’d slept with Tristan, Jordyn said—without a flinch—, “Never. Never a thought, never a consideration, never happened, never will I.” And just like that, her truth set her free.

As I scrolled through Twitter and Instagram comments it was hard to come by any in support of Khloe. Until the interview went live Khloe had been pretty tight-lipped about the situation except for a singular tweet thanking fans for their support. During the Q&A, however, Tristan’s baby mama tweeted an emotionally-driven response directed at Jordyn that quickly drew a stream of opposing tweets. Khloe cited Jordyn as the reason her family broke up and Twitter was not having it. She’s since recanted her statement.

But the bigger issue stands: why, even after her baby daddy publicly cheated while she was still pregnant, did she go after 21 year-old Jordyn? It happens too often amongst women. We look at the person our men cheated with as if to say, Why didn’t you stop this from happening? When the situation’s reversed and women are the cheaters, men tend to show gratitude toward other men as if to say, thank you for helping me see her true colors. I think women should take a page out of that book. The cheater in the relationship should always bear the brunt of the aftermath, in my opinion. Tristan has proven himself to be trash once again but he’s the gaping, missing piece in all the media coverage.

If I could go back to 2009 and handle the situation with my friend differently I would. I would’ve been appreciative of my girl being straight up with me about what went down and I would’ve stopped having sex with the guy. Me and my bestie don’t even have prom or graduation pictures because we didn’t speak most of our senior year. Looking back, it’s absolutely crazy that I let a boy come between us.

Ultimately I think this had to happen to snap Khloe out of her delusion with her baby’s father. I hope she can forgive Jordy and move on.

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